Ben Wilson, LPC

Another reason sexual intimacy is important is simply for pleasure. Sex is meant to feel good and be fun. 

^“May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. ¹⁹ A loving doe, a graceful deer-may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love.”

~Proverbs 5:18-19 

The bible can be great to read! :)

God wants sex to be pleasurable. He has provided women with a clitoris. Sexual pleasure is the only function of it. The clitoris is the only organ in either gender with pleasure as its sole function. Isn't that cool? God took the time, to create a part of woman's body just to feel gooood. 

And how about the penis. Take a look at this from Discovery Health, 

"The entire penis contains many nerve endings that make it sensitive to touch, pressure, and temperature.

The glans (head), however, has a higher concentration of nerve endings than the shaft of the penis and is thus particularly sensitive to physical stimulation.

Two other areas that are highly sensitive are the rim that separates the glans from the shaft of the penis, called the coronal ridge, and the small triangular region on the underside of the penis where a thin strip of skin called the frenulum attaches to the glans." 

Thanks God for those sensitive nerve endings and the pleasure they bring. 

Finally, having sex with your spouse is a place to worship.  

“Eat, O friends, and drink; drink your fill, O lovers.”

~Song of Songs 5:1b

Worship is part awe and part gratitude to God. We can be especially grateful to him that he gave us this avenue of pleasure to enjoy together as husband and wife. Being grateful is a wonderful attitude to have during sex with your spouse. All too often there is stated or unstated performance pressure that gets in the way of simply enjoying one another and being thankful for how you were made to fit together. 

All of us have blown it in the being grateful department. We didn't heed the words from Proverbs 5 below. We lost our way. I don't share these to shame anyone. I just want you to know our wonderful calling with regards to sex and your marriage. These words are a terrific, sobering reminder to me. 

Never Take Love for Granted

 ^15-16 Do you know the saying, "Drink from your own rain barrel, 
   draw water from your own spring-fed well"?
It's true. Otherwise, you may one day come home 
   and find your barrel empty and your well polluted. 

 ^17-20 Your spring water is for you and you only, 
   not to be passed around among strangers.
Bless your fresh-flowing fountain! 
   Enjoy the wife you married as a young man!
Lovely as an angel, beautiful as a rose— 
   don't ever quit taking delight in her body. 
   Never take her love for granted!
Why would you trade enduring intimacies for cheap thrills with a whore?
   for dalliance with a promiscuous stranger? 

 ^21-23 Mark well that God doesn't miss a move you make; 
   he's aware of every step you take.
The shadow of your sin will overtake you; 
   you'll find yourself stumbling all over yourself in the dark.
Death is the reward of an undisciplined life; 
   your foolish decisions trap you in a dead end.

~Proverbs 5:15-23