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Our Goal at the Marriages Restored Weekend

In reading Shirley Glass and Not "Just Friends" today I found some good words that summarize what we hope for couples that are attending our weekend (every married couple really). 

She listed out the following characteristics of a strong marriage. 

  • Compassionate communication is the essence of your healing.
  • Your sexuality is a mutually desired expression of love, affection, and eroticism. (Ann looked at this and asked if we can say eroticism.  Yep. :)  I looked it up and the first definition of erotic is, of or concerning sexual love or desire; amatory.  That's just what we mean.)
  • You have replaced any rigid patterns with flexible interactions: shared intimacy, power, and respect.
  • Conflicts are resolved and don't escalate; you don't avoid them.
  • Neither of you feels overbenefited or underbenefited because you are equally invested in the relationship.
  • You have a united front in dealing with others, a co-constructed story about the meaning of the infidelity (or whatever the rift was, ed.) and a shared vision for monogamy. 

Strength, courage, tenderness and blessings on your journey.

Ben