Betrayal slices the soul like an invisible knife thrust from nowhere. In one moment life seems to be going along fine, thank you very much. In the next moment life is forever changed. Painfully changed. A thousand times the betrayed utters, “You did what!?” Through shock and numbness one seeks to make sense of his or her new reality.

Swings from bursts of rage to silently staring at the walls for hours become common following betrayal. Time is an ingredient in reconstructing ones heart. It takes time for the soul to catch up with what is true. The new reality is so different than what was previously believed. Be kind to yourself as you adjust. Simple tasks may now seem challenging. Fits of anger can shoot out instantaneously. Know that your heart can be put back together but it will never be the same. There is hope of a new reality that is good, but first the pain must be faced.

Betrayed and Betrayer: Rescuing your marriage from the affair